Op-ed

Self-care: Is your glass half full or half empty?

“Optimism is the faith that leads to achievement. Nothing can be done without hope and confidence.” - Helen Keller

<p>We all face tough days or times&period; It’s a part of life&comma; especially in schools&comma; and especially for leaders&period; But it’s how you react&comma; think and act during these tough times that makes a big difference&period;<&sol;p>&NewLine;<p>Do you tend to see the positive&comma; even in trying situations&quest; Or do you immediately assume the worst and focus on the negative&quest;<&sol;p>&NewLine;<blockquote>&NewLine;<p>It’s the old cliché &OpenCurlyDoubleQuote;are you a glass half full or a glass half empty person&quest;”<&sol;p>&NewLine;<&sol;blockquote>&NewLine;<p>When we talk about mindset&comma; one way of defining our attitude and beliefs is by being either optimistic or pessimistic&period; Defined by Martin Seligman&comma; optimism is when we react to problems with a sense of confidence and hold a belief that negative events are temporary and manageable&period;<&sol;p>&NewLine;<p>The other key thing about optimism is that it doesn’t mean that we deny reality or that we have all the answers immediately&period; It means that we are willing to confront the challenges ahead&period; Pessimism is quite the opposite and is where people tend to believe bad events will last a long time and the outcome is their own fault&period; Of course&comma; like other psychological states and characteristics&comma; optimism and pessimism exist on a continuum&period;<&sol;p>&NewLine;<p>Perhaps the most important question is&comma; &OpenCurlyDoubleQuote;Which end of this continuum are you spending most of your time at&quest;”<&sol;p>&NewLine;<p>Most school leaders like to think of themselves as optimistic and positive&comma; and I think that’s fair&period; After all&comma; we need to hold hope and belief that we can lead our school to be the best it can be&period; Further to this&comma; the human population is largely optimistic&comma; in fact&comma; it’s somewhere between 60&percnt; – 80&percnt; of people&period;<&sol;p>&NewLine;<p>Often&comma; we try to make it sound simple&comma; that is positivity leads to optimise&period; The reality is that it doesn’t always unfold like this&period; Maybe a student misbehaves and we choose to take a positive approach&period; It may mean that we give one more warning&comma; avoid a difficult conversation or lower our expectation so the interaction doesn’t end with conflict&period;<&sol;p>&NewLine;<p>Or&comma; we can choose to hold our high expectations and deal with the behaviour&comma; even though we know it may result in negative interaction initially or maybe even conflict&period; In this example&comma; being optimistic means that we hold hope that this short term pain&comma; difficulty or negativity will set us up for success in the long term&period;<&sol;p>&NewLine;<p>Basically&comma; not everything we do will give us instant gratification or positive affect&period; This doesn’t mean that we aren’t optimistic&period; As a leader&comma; do you always hold the belief that the future will be good&quest; Equally important&comma; do your staff have an optimistic outlook&quest; Optimism is partly an inherited trait&comma; but it’s also influenced by our environment and our mindset&period; The good news is that this means it is something we can learn about&comma; and improve on&period;<&sol;p>&NewLine;<h3>To help you shift your perspective&comma; and improve your levels of optimism&comma; follow the five steps below and you’ll be on the path to greater success&period;<&sol;h3>&NewLine;<ol>&NewLine;<li>Keep the expectation bar high&excl; It’s important that we don’t lower our expectations to make the outlook more positive in anticipation to achieve success straight away&period;<&sol;li>&NewLine;<li>Be realistic and don’t forget to acknowledge the negative – The reality is that things can be negative&period; It’s important we don’t ignore this&comma; gloss over it with positivity or live in a fantasy world where &OpenCurlyQuote;everything is always perfect’&period; You need to know when to put your rose-coloured glasses on&excl;<&sol;li>&NewLine;<li>Keep one eye on today and the other on the future – All efforts and plans should be considered not only in terms of the immediate impact but also the long-term effects on your school&period;<&sol;li>&NewLine;<li>Your attitude is contagious – We all have colleagues who love to complain&period; Sometimes we find ourselves falling into the trap or adding fuel to the fire&period; Negativity is contagious&period; Luckily&comma; positive emotions can be contagious too&period;<&sol;li>&NewLine;<li>Be grateful – Gratitude is the quality of being thankful and appreciative for what we have&period; It’s not about what we want or don’t have&period; Gratitude can significantly improve optimism&period;<&sol;li>&NewLine;<&sol;ol>&NewLine;<p>Despite all the challenges we face in schools&comma; it’s your job to make sure the glass is always at least half full&period; Don’t let a negative interaction&comma; a bad day or a minor challenge impact your optimistic outlook on how great your school could be&excl;<&sol;p>&NewLine;

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Adam Voigt

Adam Voigt is the Founder & Director of Real Schools. Built upon years of experience as a successful Principal, Real Schools helps schools to build and sustain strong, relational School Cultures. A speaker of local and international renown, Adam has delivered a TED Talk and is the schools/education expert for The Project”.

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